His Point of View

Recently I have heard several discussions about this book “Marry Him : The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough.”

Typically I don’t read these types of books, I tend to stick to non-fiction and business related reading material.  Although I have not read the book (yet) the article here seems to summarize some of the finer points of the book.  This past week I was involved in a pretty heated debate about women “settling” for a man who is not all that they want a man to be.  I agree with the highlights the article which I linked to above mentions.  I do not think that women should consider themselves to be settling when they are aligning their expectations more with reality, than a dream world where there is a “perfect” man for them.

Life is all about learning and compromise.  I hope that women learn through experience as they age that what they wanted 2,5,10 years ago is probably not what they need at their current stage in life.  As such, they should modify their list of desires in a mate.   If you are single at age 40 and your list of desires is exactly the same as it was at age 20, you have not learned from your mistakes.  Perhaps your list should be longer, or shorter… either way the list of wants should not be the same.

The article’s point #1 is of particular interest to me, as I have seen this over and over again.  The danger here is (CONTINUE READING…)

When you are dating someone, but you are not yet in a relationship how do you handle the fact that your date is or may be having sex with other people?  I don’t mean Mr. or Mrs. one night stand, but perhaps someone you have dated for several weeks or a few months.

If you have not yet had sex with this person does that change your thoughts?

How much detail is too much? Do you expect them to tell you specifically that they are having intercourse with others? Do you want them to just let you know that they are dating other people and leave out the details?

What if your potential mate volunteers info?

Is joking about their other lover(s) OK? Would/Does it make you uncomfortable if your date is flippant toward the topic of having relations with other people?  By this I mean can you handle it if your date describes how bad the other person is, or they make jokes about the encounters they have with the others?

Or would you just rather not know that they are seeing other people at all???

Aside from being the title of a great song by the late, great Jimi Hendrix the question often arises when people decide to take their relationship into the bedroom for the first time.  I doubt that very many people ask that question these days, but I have found myself being offered the answer to that question, even though I didn’t really care to know at that very moment. Usually the information comes in the form of what a young lady has never done before, or what she had only tried once before…as if I, or any other guy cares.  All that matters to most men is what you are about to do.  And many men would actually prefer a woman with experience.  I know that is counter to what many women expect, but all men do not want (CONTINUE READING…)

I came across the video below of Scott Dunbar singing what appears to be a “freestyle” song about a timber mill in Canada which was destroyed by a suspicious fire.

Can your accomplishments in life frighten off potential mates?  Or is it best that people who are weak enough to feel that you are “better” than they are weeded out early in the dating process?

I have read and heard that entrepreneurs, people with advanced degrees (e.g. Master’s or PhD.), people who have seen the world, or even those who are very popular locally, etc. have difficulty maintaining relationships.  Often I feel that high achievers, or those who THINK that they are high achievers may (CONTINUE READING…)

Air Mouse is the latest reason I have found to fall in love with my iPhone again.  This app allows you to use your iPhone as a mouse & presentation pointer for your desktop/laptop/Mac.  All you need is a wifi connection and a free down loadable application to install on your desktop/laptop.   Your PC/Mac can be connected via a wired or wireless connection as long as it is connected to the same network that your  iPhone is connected to via wifi.  I find this app particularly useful since I don’t like to sit at a desk while using my PC, so now I can sit back and use my PC across the room or from my comfy chair as long as I can see the monitor(a large monitor comes in handy).  The app even allows you to use your iPhone as a fully functional keyboard, really you have full control of your PC from your iPhone.  In fact i am typing this blog post on my iPhone while sitting back in a nice comfortable chair away from my desk.  I think this is a must have for entrepreneurs or people constantly on the go who want to minimize the number of devices in their equipment bag.  The app only costs $1.99 at the itunes store so give it a try.  See the vendor’s site by clicking here.

Unless you have been living under a rock, you know that last week the new “World’s Tallest Building” was opened in Dubai(the Burj Khalifa). I have read several articles about the fact that every time there has been an opening of a new World’s Tallest Building, the economy has been in a downturn. At the time when these buildings break ground there is a time of prosperity, which causes someone to splurge and break the old record. Without fail, the economy sours before construction is complete. The silver lining to this cloud is that after each economic downturn the world bounces back stronger and technology takes leaps ahead. We can only wait and see if 2011-2012 bring about a new round of prosperity, or if we will be in the throws of a massive recession/depression fueled by the crash of the Chinese economy(see the next paragraph for more on China’s possible problems).

I also came across the article below which describes James S. Chanos’s view that the global economy is about to take a massive turn further downward. This gentleman believes that the economy of China is about to take a plunge due to several factors and historical patterns. One very interesting suspicion James has is that (CONTINUE READING…)

Sooooo, about 15 years ago I stopped eating pork, and maybe 5 years ago I stopped eating beef.  As a result I avoid products which contain gelatin, as most gelatin is rendered from the remains of cattle or swine.  To make a long story short, I have had to give up gummy bears and gummy worms. Well I was in Toys R Us yesterday and I found organic, vegetarian gummy bears and worms… even the sour kind.  If you are interested they are “Surf Sweets” by Santa Cruz Nutritionals for only $.98 for a 2.75 oz. package. And best of all they taste great, they even taste better than I remember…. Now if only then made a vegetarian Jell-O substitute…

FYI: Surf Sweets products are all gluten-free and casein-free

http://www.surfsweets.com/ OR  www.SantaCruzNutritionals.com It has been brought to my attention that Surf Sweets is no longer a part of Santa Cruz Nutritionals, although both companies appear to sell similar organic candies.

Fake it ’til you make it.  That is a phrase which I live by when it comes to business deals or pulling off things that others say you are not qualified to make happen.  In the business world faking it until you make it is almost a requirement to succeed, but in the dating world it is a recipe for disaster.

Have you met someone who was putting up a facade in an attempt to either impress you, or to hide their blemishes?  I can only assume that men participate in faking it more than women when it comes to what we have or our status in the world.   I think women fake it in different ways, ladies seem to try to (CONTINUE READING…)

Did your parents, grand parents, or other family elders give you the tools necessary to establish and maintain successful relationships? Did anyone teach you your role in a relationship, or what to expect/require in a mate?

I ask these questions because it seems as if a lot of people my age are learning by trial and error.  We are getting married later in life, involving ourselves with the wrong mates, and not providing (CONTINUE READING…)