His Point of View

So you met someone of interest.  The first date went exceptionally well, the second date was a success… then they stopped returning calls, they stopped sending texts, they basically disappeared… you may ask ” what happened? ” or ” what did I do wrong?” Then all of a sudden 1, 2, or 3 months later your phone rings and guess who it is…

What happened?  Well if you asked me that question I would say ” You were put on hold.” 

What do you feel or think when this happens to you?

Personally I have observed 2 primary reasons for such behavior. Either the person was dating multiple people or they were in an actual relationship and just out testing the waters. In either scenario  they did not opt to tell you the whole story up front, and when the priamary situation flopped they thought that they could seamlessly pick up with you where they had left off.

Personally I find this disrespectful.  I see nothing wrong with dating multiple people as long as you are not in a relationship, and I have no problem telling a woman I meet that I am dating others. 

 If a woman feels like we are a couple after our first date then she has things that she needs to work out in that pea between her two shoulders.  Something has happened in the dating world in the last 10 years.  It used to be that when you were “dating” both parties would go on a date here and there with several different people.  That way you got to know several people and you could keep a rotation going until you found enough interest in one of those people and decided to settle down for a while.  Now it seems as if you go on a first date with a person, then within a day or two a second date, and after 2 weeks you are a couple.  How did the dating timeline get compressed from a month or two, down to a week or two?

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