His Point of View

Recently I have found myself in conversations with women (on separate occasions) who seem to think that its easier for men to find a quality mate than it is for women.  I think not ma’ams.  Its hard out here for anybody with any type of standards, but its definitely not any easier for men.  I can say that since I have been in DC (10 months now) I have met many types of women but this post will only touch on 6 types:

Type 1- Grown a@@ woman who do not have their act together.  I am talking about 26,30,35 year old women with sky high requirements for a man… you know he must make    per year, drive         type of car, provide her with       type of life style, etc… while these chicks have a piece of a dead end job with no real future ambitions and half of them still live at home with their mothers.  Ladies this sound kind of familiar???  I thought so…  This category is by far the largest and I could list 1,001 attributes of these ladies… but I think you get the picture.

Type 2- Typically younger ladies usually recent college grads, or graduate students who are all about being flashy… its always about going out, being seen, and having a man spend      on her.  They could care less about who or what you are as long as you keep the party going.  (I ask myself time and again why do these college educated young ladies end up dating drug dealers who dropped out of high school… and this is the only answer I can come up with, they enjoy the care free money spending lifestyle… that is until they end up in jail behind something their man did)

Breaking bread on your lady is cool later in the game after the relationship is established.  I am not the one to meet a woman and start to spend lavishly on her from day 1.  How do you expect to get to know a person’s real intentions if you are constantly showering them with gifts and fine restaurants?  Sure we all love to partake in these things, but really this type of behavior is L 7 (read: square… for you L7′s out there… LoL ).  Where I am from getting women with your wallet is definitely not the plan of action.  Needless to say when I meet these type 2 women we don’t get too far. Like T.I. said, A woman who asks for everything will get nothing… A woman who asks for nothing can get everything…  Now don’t take that song lyric out of context, I am strictly speaking about material goods and money.  Of course women (and men) should ask for what they want when it comes to the things that are important in a relationship.

Type 3- The busy bee… these women for some reason occupy every free moment of their waking hours with something to do, and they don’t see fit to make time for you in their action packed schedule.  Work is understandable, a few activities on your schedule is great to have, but to have something going on in your life 7 days a week, 16 hours a day(+8 hours for sleep 16 +8 = 24… basic math people catch up! ) is nuts… And its even more nuts to to wonder why you are still single if you don’t make time for any relationship to grow.  But what was I thinking???  These women “are not seeking a relationship at this time” that is silly, these women must have the secret potion         which allows them to create a perfect relationship on demand.  Keep turning down opportunities to get to know people if you want… I know a few animal shelters with a lot of cats that are looking for a nice home with a single lady    …. play with it if you want to!!!

Type 4- The competitive type… these are the women who have a decent job, have a decent apartment/townhouse/house, decent car… But they make sure you know that they have all of these things, and that they got it on their own, with no help from a man, and they don’t need a man for anything…  I don’t need a woman in my life who is always trying to make sure I know what she is capable of doing… just do it and shut the hell up about it.  Some women seem to get a kick out of dating a man they feel superior to,  so far none have had that liberty when dealing with this guy right here… so they will have to keep trying, elsewhere.

Type 5- Lesbians (many of whom are among the coolest women I have met, and actually I actually like going out with them because we are all looking for the same thing ) & married women.  I group them together since they are both out of bounds (as far as building a relationship goes…LoL )

Type 6- The women who are level headed, pleasant to spend time with, and responsible.  You may ask “well, if you have met this type 6 woman why are you still singe?”  And I would say that both of the type 6 women I’ve met have relocated to far away places, leaving me to start over again.

This is not a comprehensive list of the types of women who make the dating scene difficult for a man to navigate, and I do not intend to discount the difficulties that women have in dating.  I just don’t think women realize all that men have to deal with when on the search for a compatible partner.  I refuse to waste my time dating someone who I know is clearly not someone I can see myself with long term, so the search continues.   I am not saying there are no good women left… but we are all in the same struggle, men and women alike  sifting through the waist high weeds to find one of the flowers hidden in the valley.

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