His Point of View

Would you say that it is inappropriate for a person you are dating (off and on for 3-4 years) to replace prominently displayed photos of your mother and grandmother with photos of themself, in your home, without your permission? (The photos of the home owner’s family members were moved to a place that was not plainly visible)

Before you ask, this did not happen to me… but I was on the scene when the homeowner noticed that the photos had been replaced.  So far the 5 or so guys that know about it have all said that this was a major violation, while the 2 women who know about the situation (not including the picture mover) said that they did not see a problem with these actions.  Now I must add that both women know the young lady who did the picture moving.  I still don’t see how anyone can think that this is acceptable behavior. 

What do you say, violation? or its all good to move photos in a home in which you do not reside?

After dating for a while we can get comfortable in each other’s living spaces, but until you share a home there are still boundaries… Further, even if you are married and move into your mate’s home some things (very few things)  still should require a discussion before they are done.  Let’s say the couple were married and one spouse moved in with the other, would one be wrong for replacing photos of close family members with their own photos then be acceptable with no prior discussion?

How would you handle the situation of a person you are dating becoming too comfortable in your  home?  

At what point does it become disrespectful?