His Point of View

We all know that it takes two… and THEY always say three’s a crowd….

We also know that most (read: all) men have a fantasy of having a threesome with two lovely ladies.  Usually when men talk about this topic with their lady, she responds with the question “well, what if I want to be with two men at the same time???”

If a woman were to ask me that question I would say, it takes a certain type of woman to desire a threesome with her man plus another man, while being a contender for long term relationship status.  That certain type of woman is rare.  Most women who are at the point in life where they want to settle down with a man are not going to have a desire to seriously consider having sex with another man unless her feelings for her man are fading, or she is otherwise attracted to that other man on an emotional level.  I argue that if a woman in a relationship is willing to have sex with another man there are likely problems brewing in that relationship… unless that woman is of the swinging type & I find it hard to believe that you would not know that you had a swinger on your hands well before you got deep into a relationship.

Men on the other hand don’t have the same problem.  For some reason most men have the ability to have sex with women with no emotional attachment, and no secret desires to be in a relationship with that woman.  Threesomes work for us, perhaps is a genetic trait( or moral flaw depending on how you look at it).  Unless the woman in the relationship can function in that same manner as most men in this regard, the whole idea of being with her man in a threesome situation with another man would not work.

How many women really have a fantasy of being in a threesome with their boyfriend and another man?

What would you say if your man accepted the idea of allowing another man to join in if you agreed to let another woman join in at another time? The reality is that a lot of women would probably feel as if their man does not value them as much if their man were willing to allow another man to have a sexual relationship with her.   For most women three is a crowd in the bedroom regardless of how her man answer’s her rhetorical question…Why can’t women just say “no” (or “yes”) when the conversation arises avoid the argument?

FYI: I am not talking about any bi-sexual activities on the boyfriend’s part, strictly hetero-sexual activities.

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