His Point of View

Aside from being the title of a great song by the late, great Jimi Hendrix the question often arises when people decide to take their relationship into the bedroom for the first time.  I doubt that very many people ask that question these days, but I have found myself being offered the answer to that question, even though I didn’t really care to know at that very moment. Usually the information comes in the form of what a young lady has never done before, or what she had only tried once before…as if I, or any other guy cares.  All that matters to most men is what you are about to do.  And many men would actually prefer a woman with experience.  I know that is counter to what many women expect, but all men do not want to have to teach a woman everything in the bedroom department from square one.  And if you have not figured out what I am talking about I will fill you in… I am referring to activities which may (or may not) occur during a sexual encounter, especially one of the first encounters with a person you have been dating for a while.

Why do so many women think that a “Good Girl” image matters immediately before their first sexual encounter with a man they are interested in? It’s a little late to try to act innocent and pure when you are already naked with a dude you have known a few weeks/months.   At the point when everybody in the room knows “it” is about to happen we (men) could not care less about your so called good girl image.  The fact that a woman feels the need to say what she can’t,won’t or doesn’t know how to do probably means she is just tired of doing it so much and she wants a break, at least for one night…LoL.  Seriously, if you didn’t know already I have a secret to share… guys don’t believe you when you say you have never… or you don’t…

I am sure that every guy has met some young lady who claims to have never done some particular act, but for some strange reason the woman decided to try it for the first time right now… despite the fact that she was in a multi year relationship  previously, and she just met you last week.  And once the show begins… why is it that she is sooo good at what she is doing, if this is her first time?  If you have never done it like this before, why did it go in so easily?  These are just some questions you should have answers for before claiming to be new to the game… Either be real, or be quiet.

Men lie about how extremely experienced they are, while women lie to appear to less experienced than they really are.  Of course I am not accusing all men and women of telling lies, but in general the trend is for men to want to appear more grand sexually, and women try to appear less active than they have been.  I can understand the logic of wanting men to think you are less sexually active, but why are women often drawn to guys who appear to have had encounters with a high number of women?  Is a man with a high count of partners more attractive to women because that implies that he is better at pleasing women? I don’t understand why having a high number of partners is not a deterrent for more women.  Considering women think that men are less attracted to women with a high number of partners, it would only make sense that more women would be attracted to a man who does not appear to have hooked up to every Jane or Janet in town.

For all of you who are wondering…I am not talking about any recent personal experience, this rant was sparked by a conversation I overheard today… and I will leave it at that.