His Point of View

Fake it ’til you make it.  That is a phrase which I live by when it comes to business deals or pulling off things that others say you are not qualified to make happen.  In the business world faking it until you make it is almost a requirement to succeed, but in the dating world it is a recipe for disaster.

Have you met someone who was putting up a facade in an attempt to either impress you, or to hide their blemishes?  I can only assume that men participate in faking it more than women when it comes to what we have or our status in the world.   I think women fake it in different ways, ladies seem to try to hide things that make them looks bad, as opposed to men who try to project a larger than life image.  But what’s the limit supposed to be?  Sure we all like to put our best foot forward, but at what point are you crossing the line into a fantasy land that is simply not real?

Is it when you inflate your job title?  Is it faking when you put 26 inch wheels on your $25,000 car that has not had a full tank of gas since 2007?  Is it when you put on your best clothes (that don’t really represent how you can really afford to dress) for that first date? Is it when you brag about the car you are “about” to buy?  Is it when you (guys)dye your grey beard hairs? Is it when you put on the booty pop panties and push up bra?  Or is it when you left the salon with 2 feet of somebody else’s hair attached to your head?  Is it when you wear a fake Louis Vuitton purse on your arm? Is it when you are looking like a million bucks in the club,  only because ladies get in free before 11 and you know you don’t have a dollar to your name? What exactly is faking it? I mean who is really them self 100% of the time?

All of these things are faking it to some degree, but I am sure that we all find some of these actions more acceptable than others.   Why is that?  Is it that we feel that the levels of faking that each of us are willing to participate in are acceptable?

When people present a facade or their dating representative as people say these days, do they assume that the relationship will never grow to the point where the truth will be exposed? Or do they think that they will be able to keep the false image in tact for the remainder of their lives together?  If a relationship starts off with one or more parties faking it, can the relationship ever make it? I apologize for a post full of questions, but I really have no answers on this topic, because I don’t understand the allure of being fake when dating someone you are interested in.   If I can’t afford it, I will never purchase an imitation.  I usually prefer to downplay my job title to avoid those who might have a certain perception based on my position.  I am not flashy, nor do I desire to be.  I am 29 years old, and my hair line is not where it used to be when I was 18.  If you don’t like me as I am, then we won’t get along anyway.

What is the worst case of faking it you have been subjected to?  What did you do?

Let’s see how real you all can be.  What level of faking it do you find acceptable when dating?  What level of faking it do you admit to in the dating game?

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