His Point of View

Alright, so you made it this far…so now it time for the controversy to begin.  I will jump right in and offer the thought that perhaps no creatures on this planet we call Earth are meant to be monogamous.  Apparently there is no evidence to show that there is a single species of animal known where there is no infidelity.   Since we humans are animals we are also included in the list of creatures which are not completely monogamous.

OK, now that I said it and you are still reading, let’s go a little deeper into this idea.  We all realize that it is difficult to find a person we are compatible with.  Once you have found a seemingly compatible person it is yet even more difficult to make a relationship work.  Perhaps the way we typically structure our relationships is against nature’s design.  Recent studies have shown that approximately 60% of men and 55% of women have admitted to cheating on a spouse at least once in their life (see link here for details).  Basically that means that half of all men and women have cheated, so this is not just a problem that affects us men even though we generally have the reputation of being the half incapable of remaining faithful.

I am sure we have all either experienced or heard someone express their love for one person, while lusting for another.  Is it possible that we are wired to be attracted to a certain type of person to have a family with, and another type of person to satisfy our desires with?  Could it be possible that we are expecting too much when we require one person to fulfill all of our needs?  Of course I don’t have the answers but I think these are valid questions. I know that many people will have an emotional response to these ideas, but if you can pry yourself away from the emotional response and think about these things perhaps we will all learn something about what we really need to be happy.

Just to be clear, having multiple partners is not the answer to happiness for all, and I must add that monogamy is not the the key to happiness for all people either.  Apparently less than half of Americans have been satisfied enough with their mates, and/or have had the self control to avoid infidelity. Perhaps that just means that most of us are not selecting compatible partners, or maybe we are failing to maintain open lines of communication and our bonds become weaker over time.  What do you think?