His Point of View

Do women(not all women of course) really feel as if they are doing men a favor when they decide to participate in sexual intercourse?  I ask this question because of the things that I hear people say.  I have heard women say that they should not have sex with a man unless they get “something” out of it.  That “something” is usually money or gifts.  I have also heard comments about how men “use” women for sex.  Both of those lines of thinking make me wonder how personal accountability was removed from the equation.  No one is forcing women to have sex, except in the case of a rape, which is a whole nother issue. If a woman chooses to have sex with a man it is either because she wants to have sex with him, or because she is expecting something in return.  I can only think of a few instances where one can really be ‘used’ for sex and most if not all of them include being in a committed relationship where you are a victim of deception.  If you are not under the impression that you are in a committed relationship then you are not being used(you might just be mad that things did not work out as you had planned in your mind).

If a woman enjoys having sex with a man I do not comprehend how she can feel entitled to some benefit other than the pleasure of the sexual acts.  If both parties are enjoying themselves nobody owes anybody anything.  If you have sex a couple of times and do not like it then you make a decision to either move on, or to stay because you like him enough to overlook that issue.  If a woman is having sex with a man who she does not enjoy intercourse with, and she only does it with the expectation of money or gifts she is nothing more than a prostitute.   What gives any one party who participates voluntarily in an activity the right to feel as if the other participant owes them something, if there is no agreement of an exchange before the activity begins?  You can’t give someone a gift and then charge them for it after they have opened and used the item.

Is it just me or is the whole idea that women should not have sex for “free” absolutely ridiculous?