His Point of View

I have been asked on many occasions why I don’t talk to, or try to connect with more women; or if I am out with friends it may be why I did not try to “holla at” a certain woman.  My simple answer is that it has to be about more than just looks.  Its not that I am shy or extremely afraid of rejection.  Its just that at the end of the day I have to have a reason to speak to a woman, other than the fact that I find her attractive.  Inevitably if you do connect with someone the conversation arises that goes something like this, “So what was it that made you want to speak to me?” And I refuse to honestly answer that question by saying that it was because you were “hot”, “sexy”, “cute” or whatever word you prefer.  I see gorgeous women every few minutes or every day, if I based my decision on who to connect with based on looks when would I have time to work, eat, or sleep?

Having said that, it does not have to be a big deal. I have found the simplest things to spark a conversation, it could be the food or drink she is having, a portion of a conversation overheard, or something gleaned from her or her friends’ possessions.   My take is that its not rocket science, people who are attracted to each other tend to notice each other or the reason for the connection is obvious to at least one party.  If there is nothing speaking to you about a person, then its probably not the right time or it may not be the right person for you to connect with.

Am I from another planet or do you understand?