His Point of View

Today I came across an interesting article that supports my side of a recent conversation I had with a female friend [click the link to see the article]-> blogs.ajc.com. I’m pretty sure you have heard the saying “Happy wife, happy marriage”… but what about the husband’s happiness??? Well according to the article referenced above you ladies need to be more concerned with your husband’s happiness…LoL Apparently there was a study performed ( by Kristina Dzara at Southern Illinois University) which states the following:

The probability of divorce is dramatically reduced when husbands report being sexually satisfied. Dzara writes, “a couple with a husband who has the highest self-rated satisfaction with physical intimacy, compared to a husband with the lowest self-rated satisfaction with physical intimacy, decreases their odds of experiencing a marital disruption by around 83.7%.” Overall, husbands’ satisfaction with physical intimacy is a stronger influence on divorce than any other measure in this study.”

The other relevant saying here is “what you won’t do… someone else will”… I’m just saying.

You can argue all you want, but at the end of the day everybody wants happiness in their relationships, men just so happened to be happier when we have sufficient access to a source of high quality sexual intercourse.  A problem is that when women are not happy many, either are not in the mood for sex or they think that holding back is somehow punishing their man.  Wrong!… Wrong!… cheating is not ever the best way to handle things, but… often its easier for a guy to get his satisfaction from the other woman who is down for a no hassle, no fuss round of action; than it is to deal with whatever issue the main woman/wife has which she really can’t communicate in an effective manner to begin with.  Open communication is critical, but removing the link between sex and anger is also a factor.  So he left the toilet seat up… holding out on the goods will not make your relationship any better… talk about the problem and then let it go.  Focusing on negative issues will not make anything any better.  The numbers don’t lie (well hopefully) men who are sexually satisfied are reportedly 83% less likely to cheat… yes there are exceptions to all studies but by and large these numbers might be true.

Wait for the shocker… I guess that means many, many husbands are not being sexually satisfied…LoL (by their wives that is)

Again communication is the key, couples need to discuss what sexual satisfaction means to each partner.  Without discourse both parties are living a life based upon assumptions.  Talk about sex, talk about what pleases each of you, talk about what is missing in your sexual relationship.  The people who just “know” that they are pleasing their partner are probably missing the mark in several areas but they are blind to the fact that their partner is not as satisfied as they believe.