His Point of View

Today I heard a young lady (she is in the age range of 25-27) say that most women only want a man for his heart, and nothing more.  I could not allow her comment to go uncorrected.  It sounded to me as if she lived in a fairytale world, where there are princes, princesses, and knights in shining armor.  While the reality is that nothing is that simple, we all have motives and desires, and love is not all that most men or women want from their mate.  I responded by saying that although women say they only want love the majority of them want one or more things from a man including; financial security, physical safety, emotional safety, vacations, gifts, romance, or a host of other things.  Most(read, almost all) people regardless of gender want a lot more than just love from their mate.  If love were all that was required by women there would be no divorces due to financial hardship, working long hours, or leaving the toilet seat up.

When discussing what we want from a mate there are a few different types of people.  Some people admit that they are looking for a person to provide certain things, whether it be cooking, cleaning, sex, financial support, or whatever it is that makes one feel satisfied or safe.  Some people say that they just want to share true love and nothing more, but they still maintain a laundry list of requirements and they do not see the fact that they have a list of requirements as them wanting/requiring something more than just love.  And there are those few people who (continue reading…)

Love does not endure without maintenance or nurturing.  The act of loving someone, especially one who is not a member of one’s family requires effort.  Even loving family members who continually hurt themselves, other family members, or us requires effort, but that’s a different story all together.  Over the years I have had conversations with many people who claim that once they love someone, they will forever.  Many of these people claim that it is not possible to stop loving a person once you have loved them.  I disagree whole heartedly. (continue reading…)

Over the course of the last year or three social media web sites and services have taken over like only a few things do every decade or so.  I have noticed two types of people that use social media sites the first are those who feel that social media sites are all fun & games and don’t take them very seriously, the other type are those who understand the value/threat of social media sites and treat them with the respect they deserve.

Those of us who realize the value of social media sites such as Twitter, Facebook, and the relative newcomer FourSquare; know that these sites are a treasure trove of free information about our own companies, the industries we are a part of, and our customers/potential customers/former customers.  Never before have (continue reading…)

Soooooo… the person you have been dating (or that you have been in a relationship with) has expressed that they no longer want to continue moving forward with you.  The only decision you have left to make at this point is; do you go quietly into the sunset or do you find out what the problem is/was and attempt to do whatever you feel is necessary to fall back into favor with that person?

In order to truly know when to hold’em and when to fold’em you have to understand the real reason that the person wishes to move in a different direction.  If they chose to not be honest (continue reading…)

FastCompany has a project under way to show the amount of influence we have as individuals online.  I am quite interested to see how much influence I have relative to the other few thousand participants.  So I need you to follow this link fcinf.com/v/bkbr then re-Tweet this link, re-Post this link to all of your social media sites, post this link to Facebook and any other method that you can think of to legally spread my influence around the net I would appreciate it.  I wish there were (continue reading…)

For a long while, I have been interested in the discussions regarding interpretations and translations of the bible.  This topic is quite complicated, and I think that it is one of the issues that will likely never be resolved.  This past week I came across an article about a researcher who claims that there is a high likely hood that Jesus Christ was not killed while nailed to a cross.  This is one thing that I had never questioned, and I had never heard anyone argue this point until now.  This particular researcher did an analysis on the words crucifix and crucify(and their variations).  Apparently it was found that the words “crucifix” and “crucify” had nothing to do with the word “cross”, what the word crucifix actually meant thousands of years ago was “suspension device” or what we would call a pole or maybe even a tree in some cases.  According to the researcher at the time of Christ the word “crucify” simply meant “to suspend”. (continue reading…)

This week I was able to attend a performance of  the one man play “Thurgood” starring Laurence Fishburne.  This was a magnificent performance.  I often had to remind myself that Fishburne was only playing a role.  The play is near the end of its run at the Kennedy Center in DC, and unfortunately its sold out for the remaining performances. If you can I would advise you to go to make sure you see this show when and if it comes to a theatre near you.  I did not know until I began doing a little research for this post, that this play has been on going on and off broadway since 2006, when the role was performed by James Earl Jones.  I only wisht that I would have known about the show so that I could have seen what Jones brought to the role.

As can be expected the play details many of the highlights of the life of former US Supreme Court Justice Thurgood Marshall.  The performance focuses on his early years as a budding attorney, and his fight to win Brown vs. The Board of Education, as well as a few other cases that were crucial to the civil rights movement of the mid 1900′s.  Surprisingly there was quite a bit of humor which I did no expect, it just goes to show that there is a human side to everyone, no matter what their public image may be.  The was much I did not know about Thurgood Marshall, and I now have a desire to do more research into the life of America’s first African American Solicitor General and Supreme Court Justice.  I hope that the 90 minute show continues to shine a light on a man who did so much to change America.

I pay very close attention to the statistics of this blog.  The numbers show which topics draw the most new readers(visitors), and which topics draw the most subscribers to the blog.  But I want to know from my readers , exactly what topics or specific subjects do you want to know “His Point of View?”  Please reply to this post or use the Contact the author link at the top right corner of the page to submit topics or specific questions.

And if you were wondering a few of the most read posts so far have been (in no particular order) incest, alcoholic beverages, lingerie, and relationships…

Over the last few years I have taken part in many conversations (and overheard many discussions) with people who claim to be seeking love, or seeking a long lasting relationship.  One common theme that I have run across goes something like this, ” I want a man, but I don’t want to give up any of the things I have grown used to while single.”  Excuse me???? But I thought that the point of having a relationship was (continue reading…)

***Update*** Gil Scott is performing in DC June 17-20, 2010 at The Blues Alley***

‘I’m New Here’ is the title of Gil Scott Heron’s latest album/CD.  If you don’t recognize the name Gil Scott Heron, you need to get familiar… Once you do some research I am sure you will find a poem or two created by him, that you have heard of.  His latest work of poetry is an excellent combination of music and spoken word poetry.  I can relate to so much of what he speaks of, and I do not doubt that you will relate to something on this CD as well.  Gil Scott Heron was fairly popular a few decades ago, and many people who were fans of his, unfortunately are not even aware that he has released a new work.  To whomever is responsible for promoting this album…please get on the ball, there are many fans out there who would surely make a purchase if they were made aware of this album’s release.

You can go to his website to hear the album now, while you are there read some of the press about him so that you can get familiar right quick… And you can order the CD from BestBuy.com, good luck attempting to find a copy of the CD locally.

Oh yeah my favorite tracks are ‘running’, ‘me and the devil’, and ‘On coming from a broken home’.