His Point of View

I have been asked on many occasions why I don’t talk to, or try to connect with more women; or if I am out with friends it may be why I did not try to “holla at” a certain woman.  My simple answer is that it has to be about more than just looks.  Its not that I am shy or extremely afraid of rejection.  Its just that at the end of the day I have to have a reason to speak to a woman, other than the fact that I find her attractive.  Inevitably if you do connect with someone the conversation arises that goes something like this, “So what was it that made you want to speak to me?” And I refuse to honestly answer that question by saying that it was because you were “hot”, “sexy”, “cute” or whatever word you prefer.  I see gorgeous women every few minutes or every day, if I based my decision on who to connect with based on looks (continue reading…)

This year was my first trip to the International CES in Las Vegas.  I saw the usual stuff, new phones, new televisions, new games, etc… What I decided to highlight are the things you may not hear about or see anywhere in the mainstream media.  This is the first product of my series the OhMiBod “personal massagers”… I am sure you know what that really means.  But check out the video and the product if you like it.

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I have a new idea for a video blog segment, but I need your help to pull it off.  I would like you to submit questions or topics regarding relationships or things that men/women do that you don’t understand.  Before you ask, no my idea is not just another guy sitting around telling the world what he thinks about women and relationships… this is something different, so please feel free to send me your ideas at hispointofview@hotmail.com

Don’t be limited by my request, please send any questions that you would like another opinion on…LoL

Today I heard a young lady (she is in the age range of 25-27) say that most women only want a man for his heart, and nothing more.  I could not allow her comment to go uncorrected.  It sounded to me as if she lived in a fairytale world, where there are princes, princesses, and knights in shining armor.  While the reality is that nothing is that simple, we all have motives and desires, and love is not all that most men or women want from their mate.  I responded by saying that although women say they only want love the majority of them want one or more things from a man including; financial security, physical safety, emotional safety, vacations, gifts, romance, or a host of other things.  Most(read, almost all) people regardless of gender want a lot more than just love from their mate.  If love were all that was required by women there would be no divorces due to financial hardship, working long hours, or leaving the toilet seat up.

When discussing what we want from a mate there are a few different types of people.  Some people admit that they are looking for a person to provide certain things, whether it be cooking, cleaning, sex, financial support, or whatever it is that makes one feel satisfied or safe.  Some people say that they just want to share true love and nothing more, but they still maintain a laundry list of requirements and they do not see the fact that they have a list of requirements as them wanting/requiring something more than just love.  And there are those few people who (continue reading…)

Love does not endure without maintenance or nurturing.  The act of loving someone, especially one who is not a member of one’s family requires effort.  Even loving family members who continually hurt themselves, other family members, or us requires effort, but that’s a different story all together.  Over the years I have had conversations with many people who claim that once they love someone, they will forever.  Many of these people claim that it is not possible to stop loving a person once you have loved them.  I disagree whole heartedly. (continue reading…)

Soooooo… the person you have been dating (or that you have been in a relationship with) has expressed that they no longer want to continue moving forward with you.  The only decision you have left to make at this point is; do you go quietly into the sunset or do you find out what the problem is/was and attempt to do whatever you feel is necessary to fall back into favor with that person?

In order to truly know when to hold’em and when to fold’em you have to understand the real reason that the person wishes to move in a different direction.  If they chose to not be honest (continue reading…)

Over the last few years I have taken part in many conversations (and overheard many discussions) with people who claim to be seeking love, or seeking a long lasting relationship.  One common theme that I have run across goes something like this, ” I want a man, but I don’t want to give up any of the things I have grown used to while single.”  Excuse me???? But I thought that the point of having a relationship was (continue reading…)

It seems as if single women who have attained a level of success are  erroneously blame emasculation as a major factor in their failed relationships with men.  I am here to tell you that this is a false line of thinking.  I do not know of a single case in the real world where a man was run off because the woman he was dating was too successful.  This whole idea of emasculation resulting from dating a successful woman is pure hogwash.   I would dare to say that the women who believe that their success causes men to run and hide are either seeking out the type of men who feel as if the man has to be 100% in charge of every facet of the relationship or these women are in denial of the fact that they have one or more flaws in their personality which is repelling men.

What men don’t like no matter what level of success a woman may think she has is as follows (in no particular order): (continue reading…)

Recently I was out with a friend and we visited a bar that has a diverse group of patrons. While at this bar I met a young lady who was born and lived until her teen years in a South American country. We had a decent conversation and then I was asked a question I have never encountered while out socially, or even from someone I have dated. ‘You aren’t a racist, are you?’ I stopped for a second to think about what I could have said to trigger such a question, and I came up with nothing. She indicated that I had not said anything out of line, but it was something she felt the need to ask since she had experienced problems with racism in the past since arriving in the US. (continue reading…)

Why is it that some ladies want to keep their ex-husband’s last name after a divorce?  This is something that I do not understand.  If you no longer want to be with that man, why would you want to keep his name attached to yours?  Today I watched two television shows starring woman who are divorced and I spoke to a woman that I know personally who all are divorced yet have kept their ex-husband’s last name.  I have heard a couple of arguments of why a woman would want to do such a thing including: to have the same last name as her children and to maintain her name recognition (in the case of celebrities or well know business women).  I don’t think that either of those are really valid reasons to keep the name of a person you no longer wish to share your life with.  I think that these women simply do not want to endure administrative hassle of changing their name, or they are purposely attempting to keep a link to their ex-husband for some reason (e.g. spite, residual emotional feelings, marketplace name recognition, etc.) If you are attempting to keep the same last name as your children, what happens when you re-marry?  At some point these women are likely to have a different last name than their children, I do not know of any man who would be satisfied if his wife (continue reading…)