His Point of View

Recently I have heard several discussions about this book “Marry Him : The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough.”

Typically I don’t read these types of books, I tend to stick to non-fiction and business related reading material.  Although I have not read the book (yet) the article here seems to summarize some of the finer points of the book.  This past week I was involved in a pretty heated debate about women “settling” for a man who is not all that they want a man to be.  I agree with the highlights the article which I linked to above mentions.  I do not think that women should consider themselves to be settling when they are aligning their expectations more with reality, than a dream world where there is a “perfect” man for them.

Life is all about learning and compromise.  I hope that women learn through experience as they age that what they wanted 2,5,10 years ago is probably not what they need at their current stage in life.  As such, they should modify their list of desires in a mate.   If you are single at age 40 and your list of desires is exactly the same as it was at age 20, you have not learned from your mistakes.  Perhaps your list should be longer, or shorter… either way the list of wants should not be the same.

The article’s point #1 is of particular interest to me, as I have seen this over and over again.  The danger here is (continue reading…)

Yesterday I made the trip to the Library of Congress after work (as I have wanted to do for almost a year).  The room that I was most interested in exploring to research a topic of interest had closed for the day, so I decided to read some old newspapers from the week which I was born in the year 1980.  To my surprise a majority of the articles in the Atlanta Journal and USA Today could have easily been written this week (the week of July 27, 2009).  If the newspapers had not been dated, and the advertisements not been for stores long gone out of business a large portion of the stories could pass for this week’s news if only a few names were changed.   It’s almost as if we could recycle the old newspaper stories from the 1980’s if we just updated the photos and change the names of the players of the game.  For example:

1. The July 28, 2009 USA Today ran an article titled “Cash for Clunkers” detailing an article about trading in gas guzzlers for cars that get at least 22 miles per gallon.  The Atlanta Journal ran a story the week of May 1, 1980 titled DOE Fails to back New Car Fuel Plan” and this story is about congress’s failure to pass a bill to require that cars get 27.5 miles per gallon by 1985 and 40 miles per gallon by 1995.  Imagine how much change there would have been in the world if that legislation had passed.

2. The Atlanta Journal ran a story on May 1, 1980 titled ” Bad Health Habits Expensive” this article claims that 1.3 % of the US population consumes 50% of US healthcare spending and the majority of those costs are related to complications of being overweight or smoking tobacco.  This week the USA today paper(July 28, 2009″Weight and Cigarettes Increase Healthcare Costs”) and CBS news (July 27, 2009 “Obesity takes 9% of Health Spending”) ran reports detailing how weight and cigarettes smoking are the leading causes of healthcare costs.

3. Sunday May 4, 1980 the Atlanta Journal ran a report titled “ Bank Holding Firm Rescued From Speculation Bonds” This article is about the Federal Govt. bailing out a bank in Pennsylvania due to the banks bad business practices. Similar articles to this one have run in a variety of US papers over the last year.

4. The Atlanta Journal ran a story titled “ New Sunlamp Rules” on May 7, 1980.  This was during the time when sunlamps (tanning beds as we now call them) were first determined to play a role in causing skin cancer. On July 29, 2009 the Atlanta Journal Constitution and CNN.com both ran reports that take the 1980 article farther by claiming a definite link between sunlamps and skin cancer.

(Also while browsing the advertisements I was reminded of all the stores I used to be dragged into as a child with my mother such as Davidson’s, Richway, Zayre, Service Merchandise & Rich’s.  If you are not from the South you may have to substitute the names of long forgotten retailers in your area in this stroll down memory lane.  Oh yeah and to the person who doubted me there is evidence in the May 1-5 Atlanta Journal that Rich’s Department stores did at one time have a hair salon and a bakery… LoL  )

These examples above are only a few of the many issues that existed in the world during the month of May 1980 that still exist today.   The US was dealing with a ground war in Afghanistan, just as we are today.  The US President was dealing with a massive recession and economic meltdown in 1980, just as a different US President is dealing with economic turmoil today.  There was a war going on in 1980 involving US interests in Iran and Iraq, just as there is today.  There were bodies of US soldiers being flown back to the US in 1980, just as there are today.

So you may ask what does this all mean?  Or why should I care?  Well if you were to ask me those questions I would say that either history is destined to repeat itself, or our leaders in the past have not effectively managed the major issues of the past.  There is basically nothing in the news today that was not in the news in 1980, so the question is; why have bad decisions not been corrected in almost 30 years?   Well a possible reason is that those same folks who voted for the wrong decisions in 1980 are still in congress they are even more powerful now, and they are still making the wrong decisions or they are afraid to vote opposite of their stance 30 years ago even if they know they made a bad decision the first time around.  It saddens me to know that people vote the wrong way due to political pressure, financial pressure, or to save face when they know what the best vote or a better solution really is.

Perhaps another cause of these similar situations is that we as a people have not changed.  Americans are still rather uninvolved in the political process, unless the issue directly affects our families.  We do not lobby as hard to get what we want as the companies that are seeking a payday.  We do not press our elected officials to move in a way that is best for their constituents, therefore they are free to move in ways that best fit themselves by helping those companies who promise them high paying jobs and high consulting fees once their term is expired.  By and large most folks in the US simply don’t care much about what goes on in their state capital or the US Capitol until its much too late, and even then once the news sound bites fade away and there is another sex scandal our memories quickly fade, and our will to push for change dies.

Plain and simple we all need to be more educated about the recent past, and use that knowledge to form our own opinions and let those opinions be known to those we have elected to represent us.  If they will not let the voices of the voters move them, then as voters our voices need to move someone else into their office as soon as possible.

On another note… below are some camera phone shots of the Great Hall of the Library of Congress.  If you are ever in Washington DC you should check out the details of this building, it has lots of art in the form of statues, paintings, and architecture… in addition to the millions of books, microfilms, and periodicals.

Library of Congress

Library of Congress

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This is perhaps one of the most relevant books I have read this year. If you don’t know who Lee Iacocca is, you should slap yourself now… Lee is the man who saved Chrysler from total collapse in the 1970’s and 1980’s. This book was written in 2007, before the current automotive crisis in America. Even 2 years ago Lee described what was wrong with the auto industry, and what changes needed to be made to change its course… too bad no one was listening. This book is about so much more than the auto crisis. Lee talks about how he was a card carrying Republican who voted for G.W. Bush in 2000, but Lee quickly became one of GW’s biggest critics. Lee is speaking from the view of a person who has close relations with the Bush family so it is quite interesting to read what he has to say about how G.W. Bush was pretending to be something that he was not(read the book to find out specifically what I am talking about). In this book Lee attacks the “leaders” of America both politicians and CEOs for allowing critical issues such as health care, open markets, and the energy policy go so long without being addressed properly. This book was written two years ago but it reads as if it were written yesterday. Do yourself a favor and pick it up…. it is a quick and interesting read.

So far the best book I have completed this year(2009)  has been How to Get Rich by Felix Dennis.  This book is really not about how to get rich… meaning this is definitely not a scheme or “road map” to wealth.  This book is about getting rich through hard work and good decision making and leadership skills.  This book is a conversation with someone who has been there and done that.  Felix talks about his failures and successes and he details the steps he took to go from a single comic book, to one of the largest magazine publishing companies in the Western world.  This is the man behind “The Guardian” newspaper, “Oz” magazine,  Cozmic Comics, Blender Magazine, Maxim Magazine, and Stuff Magazine, just to name a few.  If you read magazines, international newspapers, or old school comics you have touched his work.   I won’t go into too much detail other than to say that if you are business minded, and especially entrepreneurial, this is a must read.  Felix focuses heavily on ownership and entrepreneur ism.

Pick it up at your local book seller or Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Rich-Felix-Dennis/dp/0091912652