His Point of View

I am a single guy, but I have a number of married friends near my age and I realized that a lot of them don’t really much about their married life, more specifically how they feel about being married. We all know the most popular (stereotypical) complaints about what married men don’t like and its usually that the woman changed (and/or wants him to change), she provides less sex, she nags about too many things, she let herself go physically, etc… but there has to be more to getting married than that. I mean come on guys tell the whole story, how do you feel about being married?

First thing’s first  let us know your age, her age, how long you were together before getting married, and how long you have been married, then share your story.

How does it make you feel to say that you have a wife?

How has having a wife changed your life?

How has having a wife made you a better man(if you think it has)?

Has being married made your life better or worse overall? and why?

What would you do differently if you could?

What is the part of married life that makes you smile when you are all alone thinking about your lifestyle now?

Would you remarry the same woman again if you could go back to when you were single, knowing what you know now? If not would you get married ever again period?

Don’t be limited by my questions I share with myself and all the other people here who can learn from what you are going through. There are the obvious questions that I avoided such as ” did you marry her because she was pregnant?” because I think those types of questions might not get a truthful answer due to fear that she might come across this article…LoL

I ask that you all really forward the link to this article and post it on your Facebook page, re-tweet it, I want a large audience to reply and to read this one.  I have never asked this before but I think we can all learn something if the response to this one is good. Ladies, if this goes over well of course I’ll give you a chance to share your stories as well, just stay tuned.

Married Men, click reply below or reply using Disqus… everybody else forward this link to any married men willing to share their story, good or bad:   http://wp.me/pwPxW-xy

Today I came across an interesting article that supports my side of a recent conversation I had with a female friend [click the link to see the article]-> blogs.ajc.com. I’m pretty sure you have heard the saying “Happy wife, happy marriage”… but what about the husband’s happiness??? Well according to the article referenced above you ladies need to be more concerned with your husband’s happiness…LoL Apparently there was a study performed ( by Kristina Dzara at Southern Illinois University) which states the following: (continue reading…)

Did your parents, grand parents, or other family elders give you the tools necessary to establish and maintain successful relationships? Did anyone teach you your role in a relationship, or what to expect/require in a mate?

I ask these questions because it seems as if a lot of people my age are learning by trial and error.  We are getting married later in life, involving ourselves with the wrong mates, and not providing (continue reading…)

2009, has been the year of infidelity: ministers, politicians, athletes, singers, and pretty much every other type of celebrity has been exposed as having cheated on their spouse this year alone.  Is marriage as important as it used to be?  Do people value the concept of marriage as they did decades ago?  I am not saying that people have not cheated since the idea of monogamy sprouted… but it seems as if it were handled in a more civilized manner in years gone by.   The other man/woman stayed in their lane, and families were not as disposable.   It might be true that in the past women stayed with a cheating husband because they were less educated and unemployed, or maybe it was because the milkman was delivering

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Before you think I have lost my mind… let me say that I had never seriously pondered this question until I read the story which you can find below.

This story is supposedly a true account of one un-named young lady’s love affair with her brother which started as they were teens, and continued through their college years.  The interesting aspect this story that made me think was the fact that she attempts to disconnect some cases of incest between siblings from abuse by noting the fact that she and her brother have only one year of difference in age and that they both consented to all of their sexual encounters (which began when she was 14 and he was 15.)  It seems as if this pair of siblings are/were really in love with each other, and it was not simply a perverted act of an older brother abusing a younger sister, if you believe that such a situation is possible.   Their situation even progressed to the point where (continue reading…)