His Point of View

How many of you parents out there who are married or in a relationship with someone other than your child’s other parent are still having sexual relations with your child’s other parent?  Due to recent conversations it has become apparent to me that a lot of folks think that having a child together means you have certain privileges for the rest of your lives no matter if you marry someone else or not.  (Of course if you don’t please tell us about your “friend” who does…lol)

A few years ago, when I was a bit younger, a bit less mature, a bit less give a fu*kish… my father asked what business I had goin to nightclubs if I was in a relationship. I gave the typical response, which was something to the effect of, I like to have fun with my friends…or I like to hear good music. On the surface those things were true, and I never went out with the purpose of trying to find another woman to be “entertained” by. But there were times that I did not stop the train when it was set in motion by a nice looking young lady. And that is exactly my dad’s point, even if you are not trying to cheat, surrounding yourself with the opportunity to cheat is not a good idea, at all. He went on to say specifically that clubs are for single people and people who are otherwise looking for some type of action.  I can now say that I pretty much agree.  Why go into a candy store if you are on a diabetic? You are better off avoiding the temptation all together.

Did your parents, grand parents, or other family elders give you the tools necessary to establish and maintain successful relationships? Did anyone teach you your role in a relationship, or what to expect/require in a mate?

I ask these questions because it seems as if a lot of people my age are learning by trial and error.  We are getting married later in life, involving ourselves with the wrong mates, and not providing (continue reading…)